Just Call Me Doctor

It never surprises me that when I am called to handle a work order at the property sometimes the tenant thinks they know what the problem is. They are usually wrong. We all can give our opinion on any a number of things, most of the time with a little common sense, we get through things that don't work and can fix them. If not we can call a plumber, electrician, HVAC tech, mechanic, that's their biz and they can get to the heart of it. Easy enough, things don't think or have emotions, and simply perform a function, that's it. But when people turn to us to help solve an issue they have in their life, we once again jump right in there and give what we feel is great advice. What's wrong with that, we want to help, right? If it is someone close to us, we are probably going to believe what they are saying is truly accurate. Do we even question that just maybe they have a slanted viewpoint, or are upset about their issue and actually have things mistaken, could that be part of the problem? We think we have shrink written on our foreheads and give advice. Because we are so attached in our relationships we might side easily with what they think, give thoughts they might want to hear. We assume that yes if they follow A advice they will get B successful outcome. Hell this isn't a clogged toilet we're working on, this is emotion, this is personalities, this is real life. But we go on and create an enablement that gives power to a decision that isn't well formed by ourselves and certainly not by the one hurting. With our biased assessment we now drive that person to not clearly handle things well by thinking out on their own and now many people in our little church of life are effected. It is time to be proud we're so good at giving sound advice.